Lectures about Lectures

lec·ture   /ˈlɛktʃər/ Show Spelled [lek-cher] Show IPA noun, verb, -tured, -tur·ing.


–noun

1. a speech read or delivered before an audience or class, esp. for instruction or to set forth some subject: a lecture on Picasso's paintings.

2. a speech of warning or reproof as to conduct; a long, tedious reprimand.
 
I'm kind of curious as to how lecturing someone works. What are the requirements to be able to lecture another individual? What is an appropriate length? What does your relationship have to be with the other person? ect.
I've been raised by a compulsive lecturer. One who lectures everyone and anyone. Friends and family, the like. Strangers.
It irritates me. A lot. Not the lecturing of me, but rather of others.
Is it all right to lecture others with whom you are not willing to put in the time and effort to help fix their "conduct".
To me it seems that lecturing is only alright if you not only do it out of love but provide support, love, and compassion. Why would someone listen if you have no stock in their life? Why would they listen to someone else's condescencion?
In fact, wouldn't it have the oppositve effect? Wouldn't simply lecturing someone put them into a defensive stance for their conduct, and thus throw them deeper into it?
But, then that begs the question of; what if it isn't possible for you to put that sort of time and energy? Perhaps, your stretched thin with your other commitments, or your separated by distance, or ect.
What do you do? Permitting that your thinking of the other person's well being rather than your own superiority, how would you bring to light a hinderance that without it they would be able to breathe freer and live happier.
For right now my only answer is prayer. Pray for the specific individual. Pour love, compassion, and resolution into their spirits without their knowledge and invite God to work in and through them.